Friendship and friendship between combat opponents

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Friendship and friendship between combat opponents

The Caucasus, at first glance, could not become the birthplace of such a deep tradition with enormous social subtext as kunachism. Too many wars and contradictions rush over these mountains, peoples speak too different languages ​​to become the ground for the cultivation of a tradition that puts friendship on a par with kinship, if not higher. But, perhaps, despite the obvious paradox, that is why in the Caucasus, kunachism appeared as a thin but strong thread between different villages, villages and entire nations. If you rise above the personal level, then kunachstvo becomes an interethnic instrument, which, however, with a sin in half, but sometimes worked. The custom itself does not give in to dating. At least he is over five hundred years old.

How did they become kunaks?


It is generally accepted that kunachism is a kind of deep modernization of hospitality, but this judgment is too simplistic and does not reflect all the contrasting realities of the Caucasus. Of course, a guest could become a kunak, but life is more complicated. They became kunaks after joint wanderings, they became people close in spirit or status. Sometimes even the outstanding warriors from the warring camps, learning about the rumor hovering about them among the people, met in a secret meeting with each other and, subject to sympathy, became kunaks. A simple person from the street in kunaki would never have crammed, because with this title a whole range of responsible duties was acquired.



It is worth mentioning, of course, that “kunak” in translation from Turkic means “guest”. But the Vainakh peoples have a very consonant concept of “konakh”, meaning “worthy man”. And a guest can not always be worthy, therefore, kunak is deeper than the custom of hospitality.

When the two men decided to become kunaks, then, of course, this arrangement was verbal. However, kunakism itself was held together by a certain rite, which among different ethnic groups had some of its own nuances, but the overall picture was similar. Kunaki took a cup of milk, wine or beer, which, for example, was sacred among Ossetians, and swore before God to be faithful friends and brothers. Sometimes a silver or gold coin was thrown into the bowl as a sign that their brotherhood would never rust.

Duties and privileges of the kunaks


Kunaki until the end of life were obliged to protect each other and support. And just in defense and reveals the deep meaning of kunachstva. If a simple guest was protected by the owner only at his home, then the kunak could count on the help of a friend at any time of the day or night and in any land in which fate would throw him. That is why, if anyone was hunting kunak, then it was more convenient to slaughter him on a mountain road, because if he were in a friend’s house, the enemy would have to storm the whole house. From here, by the way, is one of the mountain sayings: "A friend in a foreign land is a reliable fortress."


Wealthy highlanders always attached a special room to their houses, the so-called kunatskaya, where a dear friend was always waiting for a clean, dry bed and a hot lunch (breakfast, dinner) at any time of the day. For some nations, it was customary to leave a portion separately for dinner or lunch in case of the arrival of kunak. Moreover, if the means allowed, just in case they kept a set of outerwear for kunak.

Of course, the kunaki exchanged gifts. It was even a kind of competition, everyone tried to present a more refined gift. The presence of kunaks at all celebrations of the family was mandatory, wherever they were. The Kunak families were also close to each other. This was emphasized by the fact that in the event of the death of one of the kunaks, depending on the circumstances, his friend was obliged to take the family of the deceased into custody and protection. Sometimes kunachstvo was inherited. At this moment, the Kunak families practically merged into one family.

Kunachestvo as an Institute of Interethnic Communication


In the war and strife, everlasting in the Caucasus, kunachism was a unique phenomenon of interethnic and even trade relations. Kunaki could act as a kind of diplomats, sales agents and bodyguards. After all, a good responsible kunak escorted a friend not only to the borders of his village, but sometimes because of the need, straight to the next friendly village. And the prosperous highlanders had many kunaks. In difficult conditions of civil strife, such relations were a kind of security points.

For example, almost until the middle of the 19th century, i.e. Before the official end of the Caucasian War, Armenian merchants used exactly the same kunatsky network during long crossings through the Caucasus Mountains with convoys of their goods. Kunaki met them on the way to the village or village and escorted to the borders of the next friendly village. Ossetians, Vainakhs, and Circassians used such connections ...

And, of course, dear guests from distant lands were always seated at a rich table. And since in those days no one had ever heard of any clubs and other public institutions, the kunak feast attracted the whole village to find out news, look at the goods, and perhaps, to establish friendships themselves.

Famous Russian Kunaki


Kunachestvo was deeply reflected not only in the folklore of the peoples of the Caucasus, but also in classical Russian literature. For example, the great Russian poet Mikhail Lermontov, who served in the Caucasus, after a bloody battle near the Valerik River, wrote the poem of the same name “Valerik”:

Galub interrupted my dream
Hit on the shoulder; he was
My kunak: I asked him
How is this place named?
He answered me: Valerik,
And translate into your language,
So there will be a river of death: right,
Given by ancient people.



Seismism was reflected in Lermontov’s novel “Hero of Our Time”:

About six miles from the fortress there lived one peaceful prince ... Once the old prince himself arrives to call us for a wedding: he gave the eldest daughter to marry, and we were kunaki: you cannot refuse, you know, even though he is a Tatar.

Here are reflected and the strict mandatory observance of the unspoken laws of kunachism, and the interethnic nature of this tradition. It is also worth considering that Lermontov himself wrote about this, which was a kunak to many highlanders. By the way, this can partly explain the fact that the military officer, veteran Valerika periodically left the camp, leaving for distant villages, and returned safe and sound.


Leo Tolstoy during a service in the Caucasus

Another equally famous kunak was the brilliant writer Leo Tolstoy, who came to the Caucasus in 1851 with the rank of cadet of the 4th battery of the 20th artillery brigade. After some time, being on the Terek, the young cunker became friends with a Chechen named Sado. Friendship was secured by a kunatsk oath. Since then, Sado has become indispensable for the young Leo. He repeatedly saved the writer’s life, helped in heavy army service, and once he played the money recklessly lost by Tolstoy in cards.

Equality on opposite sides of the front


Despite the raging Caucasian war, kunak relations quickly ensued between the Russians and the highlanders. Even on the banks of the Terek, where Cossack villages and villages stood across the river, kunaki, catching a moment of calm, went to visit. These unspoken relations by the authorities were hardly suppressed, because they were another channel for exchanging information and building diplomatic bridges. The Highlanders came to the villages, and the Russians to the villages.

One of the most tragic and therefore noteworthy examples of kunachism was the friendship of the centurion Andrei Leontyevich Grechishkin and the senior prince of the Temirgoy tribe Dzhembulat (Dzhambulat). Andrei, who grew up in the family of a linear Cossack in the village of Tiflis (now Tbilisskaya), had already earned the respect of his older comrades at a young age, and his rumor was carried with reverence. On the other side of the Caucasian cordon line, the fame of Prince Djembulat, who was considered the best warrior of the North Caucasus, was booming.

When rumors of a young and brave centurion Grechishkin came to Dzhembulat, he decided to meet his enemy personally. Again, through the kunaks, scouts and secret communication channels, we managed to arrange a meeting in the swampy and secret places of the Kuban River. Two courageous people, after a short conversation, as they say, penetrated. Soon they became kunaks. Grechishkin and Dzhembulat secretly went to visit each other, exchanged gifts on Christian and Muslim holidays, while remaining implacable enemies on the battlefield. Friends shared everything except politics and service. At the same time, everyone in the camp of the Temirgoyevites and the Cossack army knew about this friendship, but no one dared to reproach them.


Monument to the centurion Andrei Grechishkin

In 1829, reports spread along the Caucasian line that a large mountain detachment was preparing a raid on the Cossack villages. Location information was extremely small. Therefore, on September 14, Lieutenant Colonel Vassmund ordered the centurion Grechishkin with fifty Cossacks to conduct reconnaissance on the other side of the Kuban. On the same day, fifty performed. Then no one knew that the Cossacks saw the good centurion for the last time.

In the area of ​​the modern Peschany farm on the 2nd Zelenchuk River, Grechishkin’s detachment ran into six hundred horsemen under the Temirgoy badges. Having barely managed to send one Cossack with intelligence data, the centurion with the rest was surrounded and was forced to accept a suicidal battle. But the first attack of the Highlanders choked. Therefore, Djembulat, who valued courage, ordered to find out who was the senior of this detachment. What was his amazement when he heard the native voice of Andrei Kunak.

Dzembulat immediately invited him to surrender. The centurion lamented that it was time for the kunak to know that the hereditary ruler would never do this. The prince agreed and nodded somewhat bashfully. Returning to his camp, Dzhembulat began to convince his elders to leave the Cossack detachment alone, since there would be no profit from them, and military fame could not be won with such and such forces. But embittered highlanders began to rebuke the prince that he dared to succumb to his feelings.

As a result, Prince Djembulat himself was the first to rush into the next attack. In the first minutes of the assault, Dzhembulat was seriously wounded, and he was carried in his arms from the battlefield. The vengeful warriors of the prince hacked Grechishkin beyond recognition, but the raid by that time was already doomed. Neither military glory nor profit, as Dzembulat predicted, the Temirgoyites did not find that September. It was as if the sin of breaking a noble tradition had cursed that campaign of the highlanders.
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  1. +5
    April 3 2020
    Thank you Informative article
  2. +13
    April 3 2020

    kunaki in love jigit laughing
    1. +1
      April 3 2020
      Ha ha ha ha! The same thought, classic!
      1. +3
        April 3 2020
        You're right. The film shows the real * kunatchestvo *.
        Of course you can relate to this with a romantic flair, but the reality is somewhat different.
        I don’t know how it was * before *, but judging by the * present * times, the romance of kunatism-sisterhood is just a dream at least about something human.
        Tested in my own skin. It is very rare that anyone respects at least decency, the impression is that decent people were purposefully destroyed by their own kindred.
        1. +2
          April 3 2020
          Quote: Vasily50
          but judging by the * present * times, the romance of kunatism-sisterhood is just a dream of at least something human.

          I don’t agree ... there is it now. It’s just that they don’t advertise it ... operas often see this.
    2. +3
      April 3 2020
      Bambarbiya! Kergood!
  3. +2
    April 3 2020
    A very good article.
    1. 0
      April 4 2020
      The author forgot to mention this fact. Personal kunakism often grew into family and hereditary. Families, whose grandfathers-great-grandfathers were kunaks, continued to maintain friendly relations - they sent each other gifts for the holidays, sent their greetings, and took part in weddings and commemorations. A. Gubin described this well in his novel "She-Wolf's Milk".
      And my clan has such a familiar Kabardian clan. Who exactly of our ancestors was the kunaks no one remembers, we are not them. But in commemoration and weddings we traditionally invite each other.
  4. AAK
    +3
    April 3 2020
    Once in my youth I read the story "St. Ilia of Mount Tbau", the two main characters are Kunaks Ossetians and Ingush
  5. +4
    April 3 2020
    Lermontov was generally a mysterious person in many ways, just "Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" in one bottle. At the same time, for many, unbearable, and also for many, charming and worthy (the mountaineers have an animal instinct here, and no one wants to call a "left" person, cunning, deceitful and cowardly a kunak).
    But as a poet - a genius, and having lived such a short stormy life (10 years less than the short life of Pushkin), how much he had not yet told us - God knows ...
  6. +2
    April 3 2020
    Thanks to the author! As always on top!
    At the end of the distant 70s, a letter came to parents describing how in the distant 20s the Assyrian (my grandfather) and the Cossack became kunaks. The son of a Cossack, Uncle Kolya and his wife, were invited to visit. He was a working machine operator in Serpukhov, a native of the neighboring village of Konstantinovskaya. He talked a lot about the relationships between our ancestors, how they were friends, the sincerity and friendship of families was such that sometimes there are no relatives. For several years in a row they came to visit us for the summer, corresponded while they were alive.
    I wonder where did these human relationships go, of such a high standard?
  7. +4
    April 3 2020
    The article is wonderful - thanks.
    It is interesting how old traditions are slowly but inevitably withering away under the pressure of the technological development of society.
    The author correctly noted that kunakism emerged as a kind of social instrument, giving at least some opportunity for a peaceful resolution of issues during tribal wars, establishing horizontal ties between the most prominent representatives of various tribes, establishing informational and diplomatic contacts even between blood enemies.
    And so, wars cease, there is no need for a person to fight for survival and little by little disappears physical the need for friends who cover their backs, in a family that provides protection, in children who will feed you when you are not able to hold your sword / stand behind the counter / work on the ground. And all these, certainly basic needs, flow from the physical need в social need, which is primarily due to a person's outlook on life, his upbringing, life experience. Of course, the dynamics of isolation is very extended in time, for any society is very inertial, but, as they say, "the process has begun."
    The countries of the West have advanced along the path of atomization of people as far as possible, just as far as they have separated from us technologically and socially. What do we see? On the one hand, the chic phrase I heard in one of the films: "Family? Sell me this project!", And on the other hand, removing family and friends from the area of ​​social institutions that are essential for survival, perhaps, makes them stronger, or something, for it is precisely the spiritual needs for friendship, love, and mutual assistance that lie at the core. And in this sense, perhaps the so-called "crisis" of the family, which is much talked about, and which certainly takes place, should be considered a degeneration of the family and, more broadly, human relations on the basis of a new technological order.
    I think so.
  8. +3
    April 3 2020
    By the way, the question is, how can you "plus" the author of the article?
    Under the article an asterisk, if you hover over it, the inscription "Important" pops up - is this a "plus"?
  9. 0
    April 4 2020
    this article again echoes the sad story about the post of St. George - again, the overwhelming minority left excellent people, guaranteed to determine their death from a numerous and cruel enemy. Again, no intelligence was conducted and the headquarters of the Caucasian army did not know what was happening behind the nearest hill. Although there’s a centurion - at the same time at the Danube Theater, at night, the Turks took the headquarters of the brigade with General Wrede by surprise, and under their cover began to make their way to the headquarters of the division. At the last minute, General Wrede screamed and warned his people, sacrificing their lives. [Lukyanovich N.A. Description of the Turkish War of 1828 and 1829. St. Petersburg. 1844.] http://www.adjudant.ru/rtwar1828-29/luk1-15.htm
  10. +2
    April 4 2020
    What are the "Caucasian mountain peoples"? In their basic expression, these are bandit communities that have risen higher in the mountains in order to ensure for themselves a certain inaccessibility from the robbed. As sea bandits, Vikings, who took refuge in a web of rotten fjords, from where it is impossible to dig out, so bandit gangs of highlanders settled as high as possible, escaping revenge for robberies and murders where it is extremely difficult to catch up with them and punish them among mountain paths. In fact, the higher the kishlak, the meaner and bloodier the bandits who laid it down.
    However, all communities that accepted the robbery of others as the basis of their life, the mountaineers faced a complex of problems inherent in such a social structure. The most important of these problems is that a bandit is always a bandit. If you live by gutting the "plains", why not gut your neighbor? Robbed, slaughtered a family, sold slaves, everything is fine! And after a week you were robbed and cut out.
    Somehow, all this turned back sadly for the mountaineers, seemingly jubilant from the merry robbery.
    It was necessary to develop mechanisms by which it would be possible to kill and rob the plains further, but at the same time sleep more or less calmly at home. Of course, the habit of cutting one’s own and cleaning their property in their favor cannot be eradicated, but one must at least reduce the level of threat!
    The first method of restriction was blood feud. It was necessary to make sure that all representatives of the "hostile" (intended for robbery) clan were destroyed, otherwise a sword hung over the heads of your relatives, which, quite unexpectedly, could strike at any moment. Therefore, a large, ramified family living in many places was a good help in survival.
    Then "inviolable customs" appeared. The customs were not indestructible, of course. But for their violation, many (those who are weaker) were threatened with serious problems, thus it was possible to partially reduce the risk from impudent upstarts trying to advance with the help of dashing swoops on their own. The "old and respected" clans could now severely punish such scumbags as if it were "legal", with the approval of the community. And this reduced the level of threats.
    The "customs of hospitality" should be noted separately. Natural prey in the mountains is everyone who travels along transport routes anywhere without impressive protection. Why wouldn't hereditary expropriators clean the roads around the clock? Yes, but so everyone will be bent with hunger! And in general, no economic activity is possible, but it still has to be carried out, and at least to sell the loot! Well, here I had to organize this very "hospitality". So that the guest can be sure that the owner will not hit him at the belt buckle at night. Or he will not be sold into slavery to the Turks. That is why all this "hospitality" is so magnificent and theatrical. Forced because ...
    Well, and kunachestvo. To attract to the protection of the clan outsiders, who live God knows where, cool, combat-ready, at the same time ready to gallop from their distant, to help in repelling the threat, as well as for revenge - well, what could be better ?! The neighbors will definitely be careful ... So feasts were arranged, where the kunaks were obviously gathering, and "fraternizing" secretly. He has many kunaks. Think a hundred times before robbing him!
    Talk frankly with any Caucasian, turn the conversation around, and you will surely hear - "Well, what kind of man is this, he can't even rob for the family!" Such is the beautiful story ...
  11. 0
    April 5 2020
    As they say, they don’t choose relatives whether they are good or bad. And they choose friends. So kunakstvo is much stronger and more sincere than kindred.
  12. 0
    April 6 2020
    Well, a noble and necessary tradition now.

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