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How to raise a man

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How to raise a man

Once again we have to come across an opinion that sounds something like this: "In the current situation in Russia, we ourselves are to blame." The reason is called the "inertness of Russian society" and its "femininity." The logic is this: You should not expect any activity from Russian men, since the vast majority of them are under the female heel.


They decided to discuss these theses on the Stalingrad channel. Psychologist Alexei Kapranov presents his opinion about how “feminine” Russian men are and how to raise a real man (man) in general.

The psychologist notes that in modern Russian society, the status of the father as the head of the family and even the father as a man is practically washed out. Proceeding from the approach to father / husband / brother as an “eternally drinking”, the general moral and ethical state of the family is formed. Naturally, this leads to distortions in education.

The child, according to Kapranov, looks at the world with maternal eyes. This can not be called poor upbringing, but this upbringing is still one-sided, it does not have the very male component that helps to grow a real man out of a boy. As a result, and the formation of society according to laws that really go to a greater extent precisely in the female direction.

The thoughts of the psychologist Kapranov on the upbringing of men are presented in the plot on the channel "Stalingrad".

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  1. knn54
    knn54 19 March 2020 20: 13 New
    +8
    The main thing in raising a child is love. If there is no love, a child, without parental warmth, grows indifferent., Closed, rude and cynical. And somewhere unsure of himself. How can you educate a man.
    1. Mitroha
      Mitroha 19 March 2020 20: 40 New
      +8
      In order to educate a man and educate correctly, it is necessary first of all the educator (father) to be such a man.
      And so that is love and a personal example, this is the minimum that is absolutely necessary for education.
      And now, very often I meet in the shopping center, on weekends, families where parents stick to smartphones, and the child at that time is handed over to the children's playroom, just to not interfere. What is upbringing
      1. Tatyana
        Tatyana 19 March 2020 21: 49 New
        +5
        Good video! Not indisputable, of course, from my - female - point of view, but still very sensible!
        The problem of the position of men in society still really exists.

        Of course, a man should be the master in the house - not be armless, economic, provide the family financially and protect her physically. To be strong, courageous, to help my wife also come true in life.
        A husband must love his wife, be proud of her, be attentive to his wife and children, give them gifts. It’s interesting for the family to communicate with each other. To love children, to take care of their well-being.
        You can’t sulk at each other for a long time, you need to be able to understand each other and forgive. And it’s good when the couple with humor, and not just to the point of stubbornly stubborn principle.
        Spouses should also take care of each other's health.
        Wives appreciate such husbands and will not be given to any other woman.

        KVN City Pyatigorsk - In Rio de Janeiro. 25 Jan 2013 year
        1. businessv
          businessv 19 March 2020 22: 54 New
          +5
          Quote: Tatiana
          a man should be the master in the house - not be armless, economic, provide the family financially and protect her physically. To be strong, courageous, to help my wife also come true in life.
          A husband must love his wife, be proud of her, be attentive to his wife and children, give them gifts. It’s interesting for the family to communicate with each other. To love children, to take care of their well-being.

          Tatyana, basically you wrote everything correctly, just forgot to write, what will a woman do? smile It seems to me that responsibilities should be divided as evenly as possible, and crazy love subsequently develops into deep mutual respect, without which no family will remain a family. Of course, a man should perform all men's housework, but spouses should help each other to realize each other! And the same applies to all aspects of life, without exception, especially children who must have both parents.
        2. Malyuta
          Malyuta 19 March 2020 23: 11 New
          +12
          Quote: Tatiana
          Of course, a man should be the master in the house - not be armless, economic, provide the family financially and protect her physically. To be strong, courageous, to help my wife also come true in life.
          A husband must love his wife, be proud of her, be attentive to his wife and children, give them gifts. It’s interesting for the family to communicate with each other. To love children, to take care of their well-being.
          You can’t sulk at each other for a long time, you need to be able to understand each other and forgive. And it’s good when the couple with humor, and not just to the point of stubbornly stubborn principle.
          Spouses should also take care of each other's health.
          Wives appreciate such husbands and will not be given to any other woman.

          An ideal world .... so as not to drink, not smoke, bring money to the house ...
          It is curious to know what kind of woman should be then and how should a woman be imbued to be a woman?
          1. Tatyana
            Tatyana 19 March 2020 23: 25 New
            +1
            Quote: Malyuta
            It is curious to know what a woman should be and then how should a woman be imbued to be a woman?

            And here you are and tell me about it here!
            It’s even very, very interesting for me as a woman! yes
            What is your sincere view as men on women in order to choose a woman / girl to marry and live with her all her life without changing her “left”?
            1. Malyuta
              Malyuta 19 March 2020 23: 43 New
              +10
              Quote: Tatiana
              And here you are and tell us about it here!
              It’s even very, very interesting for me as a woman!

              I don’t think that this is exactly the “clearing” where you can depict this ideal creation of nature. repeat Well, in principle, there will be something similar to your idea, only with all amendments for a woman, femininity, beauty, thriftiness and so on.
              There is now a slightly vulgar poem on this subject, appealing to our society, well, I’ll post it, I hope, you will perceive it with humor:
              "Here is Nikolai’s new woman
              Beautiful. smart and young
              Works in a bank, has a car
              Jumps on fitness, shaves vagina
              Sucks, how can not suck a vacuum cleaner
              Always help with money. no problem
              Doesn't like Mikhailova stasovyh songs
              And leps is absolutely uninteresting to her
              Her headaches are not tormented by pain
              What matters to her is what matters to Kolya
              Doesn't look at other men at all
              Cooking chic with lamb pilaf
              Over time, it does not spoil at all, by the way
              Resilient, fresh and active in bed
              It has the whole apartment, all comfort and everyday life ...

              in my opinion, still Kolya tryndit ... "(c)
              1. Tatyana
                Tatyana 20 March 2020 00: 20 New
                +2
                Quote: Malyuta
                in my opinion, still Kolya tryndit ... "(c)

                Kolya is definitely tryndit!
            2. Malyuta
              Malyuta 19 March 2020 23: 52 New
              +13
              Quote: Tatiana
              What is your sincere view as men on women in order to choose a woman / girl to be your wife and live with her all your life?

              My Mom left us a week before the Golden Wedding with the Pope, that is, without exactly a week 50 years .... They raised two sons, I would like to think not the worst. And Dad still goes to Mom on a date on March 8 with flowers and any conversation in the family, starting on any topic, ends with his words: "What a wonderful MOM we had!"
              I would like to like this, but alas ....., together with the great era, we have lost the greatness of the relationship. Here is such a sadness.
              1. Tatyana
                Tatyana 20 March 2020 00: 23 New
                0
                Quote: Malyuta
                Dad still goes to Mom on a date on March 8 with flowers and any conversation in the family, starting on any topic, ends with his words: “What a wonderful MOM we had!” I would like to like this, but alas ..... , along with the great era, we have lost the greatness of the relationship. Here is such a sadness.

                A woman should be proud, choosing a mate in her life, and not forgive any humiliation on her part. Such women / girls men / fans remember their whole lives.
                In my youth I wrote poetry. They turned out for me by themselves - in the mood. For example.

                Goodbye!
                Our roads are different.
                I'm leaving
                And I won’t come back anymore.
                Go away forever
                The days of love are beautiful.
                Let love leave
                I feel sad!
                Let owns
                Bitter memory
                And sorry sometimes!
                I will not forgive you anymore.
                I'm leaving with a light heart.
                And let it be completely
                Don't you believe
                That you can leave so easily.
                Like a spell, I say:
                I do not love you anymore!
                1. Malyuta
                  Malyuta 20 March 2020 01: 08 New
                  +12
                  Quote: Tatiana
                  A woman should be proud, choosing a mate in her life, and not forgive any humiliation on her part. Such women / girls men / fans remember their whole lives.

                  There is pride, but there is pride. I tell you, as a man, I declare that if in men you suddenly notice negative traits in relationships, then it’s better than famil. For me, there’s a much longer period of growing up and self-affirmation and girls / women play in this formation an important role. Any unsuccessful first experience is an injury, possibly for a lifetime, it’s like a wound — it can heal, but the scar will remain forever.
                  Honestly, I haven’t argued with women for a long time and haven’t been trying to remake, change, rebuild, you just need to take and love them.)))) Do you understand these are two completely opposite poles, two universes that are incomprehensible to each other, truly "unity" and the struggle of opposites! "
                  But different poles are attracted, and it turns out a whole.
                  Now, watching what is happening, I understand that the criteria for evaluating one gender by the other have radically changed, from "paradise in a hut" and spirituality, to materialism, wealth, wealth, communication, cars, houses, apartments, "brioni", "patek philip" - here are the estimated characteristics. And I always said, you love me the way I am, and with junk anybody will love me, and then the “winner of the competition” got a nice bonus laughing
                  And I will not stop asserting that it is women who spoil men, it’s just that women were wiser before, relations were more conservative, and the country was patriarchal.
                  And as for the Boys, here she is the coy truth of life and who will warm these scorched Souls:
            3. kieferandreas
              kieferandreas 20 March 2020 01: 27 New
              +2
              answer your own question why
              1) does a woman first get married?
              2) then does everything to become pregnant and give birth to children?
              3) after the birth of children, he does not do anything to the husband, but only children receive everything?
              4) to whom can a man give his bodily love if there is nothing in return?
              5) and you think that all men are cables?
              6) if so, who created them like that?
              1. Tatyana
                Tatyana 20 March 2020 02: 07 New
                +1
                Quote: kieferandreas
                answer your own question why 1) does a woman first get married?
                2) then does everything to become pregnant and give birth to children?
                Because a woman / girl wants to have a family and legally realize her natural destiny in her - motherhood.
                Quote: kieferandreas
                3) after the birth of children does not pay anything to her husband, but only children receive everything?
                I didn’t have that. The husband should be well-groomed, beautifully dressed, so that a woman in front of no one in society would not be for him and ashamed of herself. My husband was always well dressed. And I sewed my own clothes. A friend came from swimming abroad and asked me to sell her my new outfits for dates with her gentlemen, and said that she couldn’t buy this abroad.
                Quote: kieferandreas
                4) to whom can a man give his bodily love if there is nothing in return?
                In this regard, my husband and I were in complete harmony.
                Quote: kieferandreas
                5) and you think that all men are cables?
                God forbid! I don’t think so. My husband was so loyal to me that all the women in the house were jealous of me and said that my husband needed to erect a monument in life! What is he so beautiful - more beautiful than me - and what only he found in me ?! What they don’t understand, why does he only love me so much?
                My mother, at the end of her life, was seriously ill and did not go at all for the last 24 years, there was a bed patient - polyarthritis. I was her arms and legs. Every day after work, my husband helped me take care of her, carry her out of bed, so that I could change her underwear and wash her. My task was to provide him with comfort at home and a good rest. And so that there is peace and quiet in the house. The neighbors on the stairs said that their husbands would not have survived such a life because of such a sick mother-in-law and one year! Well, a maximum of -3 years!
                Quote: kieferandreas
                6) if so, who made them like that?

                So much depends on the men themselves. You yourself also make yourself like that.
        3. Malyuta
          Malyuta 19 March 2020 23: 58 New
          +9
          Quote: Tatiana
          Tatyana

          Dear Tatyana! Remember and tell other women that “A man is a boy who accidentally survived!”
          And here is how we grew and raised:
          1. Lexus
            Lexus 20 March 2020 01: 32 New
            +5
            Now, not all "accidentally surviving" boys become men, just like girls, real women. Alas.
            1. Malyuta
              Malyuta 20 March 2020 01: 48 New
              +7
              Quote: lexus
              Now, not all "accidentally surviving" boys become men, just like girls, real women. Alas.

              Now, Dear Comrade, there are a lot of "ALIAS" .....
            2. kjhg
              kjhg 20 March 2020 05: 01 New
              +1
              Quote: lexus
              Now, not all "accidentally surviving" boys become men, just like girls, real women. Alas.

              Alas, at the present time the border between the sexes is rapidly blurring. This is manifested in everything: in education, study, behavior, clothing, communication, work, etc. It is hard not to notice that women wash her, in an effort to get more rights and advantages than men, thereby changing the essence of nature in a fatal way .. I still believe that they do this unknowingly. But they are changing the world in the direction that they do not like the most.
              If this is the very path of evolution of mankind, then I personally would not want to live in such a future.
        4. kjhg
          kjhg 20 March 2020 04: 49 New
          +2
          Quote: Tatiana
          a man should

          Quote: Tatiana
          Husband should

          Tatyana, even after watching Kapranov’s video, you managed to write a long list that the man MUST. When did he manage to owe so much then? Moreover, almost every item is, let's say, debatable. From this I conclude that even if you looked at Kapranov, you did not understand very much inattentively and decisively nothing of what he was trying to convey to you.
          1. Tatyana
            Tatyana 20 March 2020 13: 13 New
            0
            Quote: kjhg
            Tatyana, even after watching Kapranov’s video, you managed to write a long list that the man MUST. When did he manage to owe so much then?

            Do you want to have an alliance with a woman without a duty to her ?! Then even in politics you are not an ally, but only a CONSUMER. So they will evaluate you, because you are.

            Why do you understand this in political life, but not in family life - don’t you understand? I do not see any difference in the sense of responsibility.
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          2. Tatyana
            Tatyana 20 March 2020 13: 51 New
            -1
            Quote: kjhg
            Tatyana, even after watching Kapranov’s video you managed to write a long list that the man MUST. When did he manage to owe so much then? Moreover, almost every item is, let's say, debatable. From here I conclude that if you even watched Kapranov, then very inattentively and decisively none of thatthat he tried to convey to you, did not understand.
            And you’re also a changeling demagogue. Namely.
            You got into commenting on my conversation with Malyuta and violated the principle of the sequence of our conversation with him - you incorrectly interchanged our comments with him backward in time. At the same time, you make a sophisticated mistake in logic, so that “in a manly way” it will affirm itself over a woman.
            For a man, this is not good and ugly for you.
            Quote: Tatiana
            Yesterday, 24: 49
            Of course, a man should be the master in the house - not be armless, economic, provide the family financially and protect her physically. To be strong, courageous, to help my wife also come true in life. A husband must love his wife, be proud of her, be attentive to his wife and children, give them gifts. It’s interesting for the family to communicate with each other. To love children, to take care of their well-being.
            и
            Quote: Malyuta
            Today, 01: 08
            Quote: Tatiana
            A woman should be proud, choosing a mate in her life, and not forgive any humiliation on her part. Such women / girls men / fans remember their whole lives.
            There is pride, and there is pride. I declare to you, as a man, that if in men you suddenly notice negative traits in a relationship, then it’s better.
        5. Pissarro
          Pissarro 20 March 2020 05: 03 New
          +3
          All that you wrote here is some convenient application for a woman. In fact, what a man owes and to whom is determined solely by the man, not the woman and not society. Then and only then will there be character and responsibility.
          In any society and in any historical period, a man realizes himself through the CASE, it does not matter whether he catches a mammoth, cultivates a field, builds a bridge or rocket, wages a war or leads a caravan. The higher he is professional in his field, the more satisfying is he and his family. And the woman’s task is to provide him with rest and a strong rear, to surround him with care and love.
          In the east there is a parable that a man is a unit, and a woman is a zero. A unit is nonsense, a toe is nothing at all. If a man is in front, a woman is behind him, together they are a dozen. A woman crushes it under herself, does not allow to be realized, this family will be 0,1.
          1. Tatyana
            Tatyana 20 March 2020 14: 10 New
            0
            Quote: Pissarro
            In the east there is a parable that a man is a unit, and a woman is a zero. A unit is nonsense, a toe is nothing at all.

            Yeah! You still say that "a woman is a friend of man"! Why then are you not a needleman? Everything is just that for them.
            1. Pissarro
              Pissarro 20 March 2020 17: 25 New
              0
              How is it feminine)
              The reception is called Hitler's surprise)
      2. 210ox
        210ox 19 March 2020 22: 26 New
        +7
        Prohibit juvenile justice. Free up educational opportunities. Give rights to teachers and educators. And of course the MAIN FAMILY.
        1. Malyuta
          Malyuta 19 March 2020 23: 19 New
          +10
          Quote: 210ox
          Say juvenile justice. Free up educational opportunities. Give rights to teachers and educators. And of course the MAIN FAMILY.

          And where in your concept is adaptation to society? Do you even know that in a class of 25 children they grow up in full-fledged families with only 20-30 percent? Can you imagine how much time a child spends outside the family and who are the leaders, idols in the children's environment? Remember, the principle of "Being determines consciousness" has not been canceled and the current "being" has a decisive influence on both the family and the child. Remember that in a society without principles and moral principles and criteria, it is practically impossible to grow into a highly moral person.
          It's hard to be an angel in hell!
      3. Proton
        Proton 19 March 2020 23: 02 New
        +4
        I remember my dad will give the back of his head, and behold, everything is fine, I obey the next time, I just had a look laughing
        1. kjhg
          kjhg 20 March 2020 05: 10 New
          +2
          Now, imagine, for this they can deprive of parental rights
    2. lucul
      lucul 19 March 2020 20: 42 New
      -1
      The main thing in raising a child is love. If there is no love, the child, without parental warmth, grows indifferent., Closed, rude and cynical. And somewhere insecure

      This is not true. Or do you think people from orphanages are completely negative people? Everything depends on the child - if he is spiritually weak, then he can be raised as you like, he’s just wax - what you fashion, then it will come out. Even parents - complete alcoholics have healthy, kind and strong children as individuals.
      And on the topic - well at least they began to realize the importance of the problem.
      On my own I will add this - the more female mentality in a man - the more successful he is in business. And vice versa - the more male mentality - the less money he will have.
      Well, never an alpha male himself will become a trader, never. Only if it is not broken / lowered ....
      1. raw174
        raw174 19 March 2020 21: 12 New
        +1
        Quote: lucul
        Even parents - complete alcoholics have healthy, kind and strong children as individuals.

        No. Well, or one in a million, you can neglect this figure ...
      2. Barmaleyka
        Barmaleyka 19 March 2020 21: 28 New
        +3
        Quote: lucul
        Or do you think people from orphanages are completely negative people?

        if you know the statistics are horrified
        According to the Prosecutor General’s Office of the Russian Federation, 40 percent of graduates of orphanages become alcoholics and drug addicts, another 40 percent commit crimes. Some of the children themselves become victims of crime, and 10 percent commit suicide. And only 10 percent succeed, having crossed the threshold of an orphanage or boarding school, to get on their feet and establish a normal life
      3. 210ox
        210ox 19 March 2020 22: 29 New
        +2
        But merchants are not needed to their homeland ... They will not raise production ... What am I talking about? What country have I found myself in ?! Wake me up!
      4. Malyuta
        Malyuta 19 March 2020 23: 24 New
        +9
        Quote: lucul
        On my own I will add this - the more female mentality in a man - the more successful he is in business. And vice versa - the more male mentality - the less money he will have.
        Well, never an alpha male himself will become a trader, never. Only if it is not broken / lowered ....

        From the bottom of my heart neighing about the "alpha male" is something on the topic "I am a wild man, ayts, tobacco, fume and stubble .." laughing
        I recommend the book to read "Sea Wolf", that is just about the core and how this core is formed.
        1. lucul
          lucul 20 March 2020 09: 42 New
          +1
          From the bottom of my heart neighing about the "alpha male" is something on the topic "I am a wild man, ice, tobacco, fume and stubble .." laughing

          Aha-ahah, you even have no idea about men, some patterns)))
          Here it is - the female mentality in all its glory)))
  2. kjhg
    kjhg 19 March 2020 20: 23 New
    +2
    Yesterday I watched this video. Kapranov tells very interestingly.
  3. Valery Valery
    Valery Valery 19 March 2020 20: 25 New
    +1
    Zakhar Prilepin "A few unimportant words at the end of the day" - there is almost everything. Read. It will really take 20-30 minutes.
  4. sagitch
    sagitch 19 March 2020 20: 43 New
    +7
    Remove the prohibitions on involving children in labor processes in schools, gymnasiums, etc.
    Some untouchables are growing. Do not say the words across to them. Snarling, offended ...
    1. Voyager
      Voyager 19 March 2020 20: 51 New
      +2
      The problem is much deeper. A scandal was recently discussed at school, when students tried to be introduced to regular cleaning as part of subbotniks. In the USSR, this was the norm, now not. Most parents had a fair question, in principle, and to whom and for what then did they pay money intended to improve the school and maintain order? Who is right, who is to blame and what to do?

      Quote: sagitch
      Snarling, offended ...

      Well, right, the story of fathers and children is as old as the world. It only has to be multiplied by the fact that everything has become faster, more complex, more information, and children are hyperactive.
      1. Dart2027
        Dart2027 19 March 2020 21: 30 New
        +2
        Quote: Voyager
        Who is right, who is to blame and what to do?

        Rather, parents are right. If the school really wants to teach something to do with their hands, then this should be done in the learning process, but here it looks like the money was simply stolen.
  5. aleksejkabanets
    aleksejkabanets 19 March 2020 20: 50 New
    +2
    The main thing is not to forget that children do not do what we say, they do that. what are we doing.
  6. Hypatius
    Hypatius 19 March 2020 20: 59 New
    +7
    Only a man can raise a man from a boy. Now all the media and laws are aimed at destroying the family (complete, not the child + mother). The laws and the media discriminate against men, like Negroes in the States. But to the women, they put on the “crown” and push them for divorce by alimony, material capital and propaganda. NMP, and specifically the company of the Russian Federation, strong people are not needed. Therefore, we are waiting for the law on "domestic violence", when the men of opriori will be guilty of the fact of sex, without trial and evidence.
    1. Barmaleyka
      Barmaleyka 19 March 2020 21: 29 New
      -9
      Quote: Hypatius
      To the women, they put on the “crown”

      is it you so now about your mother? !!!!
      1. Hypatius
        Hypatius 19 March 2020 21: 34 New
        +4
        Is this a subtle transition to personality from the core of the issue? From the TP bingo table, moreover laughing. But I’ll answer that I didn’t guess (a). Her age is not the same, her upbringing is different, and in a complete family.
        1. Barmaleyka
          Barmaleyka 19 March 2020 23: 22 New
          -2
          this is a very fat and direct question, if you have such an attitude towards women, then alas, you do not cause respect, and only a man can disappoint you at the expense of educating you, it’s far not so, I had a classmate (during the USSR) lived in a family of 4 man mother younger sister and grandmother, disabled mother he went to his women from an early age with 14 worked with a man
          1. Hypatius
            Hypatius 20 March 2020 11: 37 New
            -2
            Darling, where did I hear about "such an attitude"? Why do women so react to questions of discrimination against men, because no one suggests depriving women of their rights? Probably because the privileges of the women will turn into the rights of women, and the queens will turn out to be a companion. And they do not care about the women who live "here and now" on the mortality of men, the decline in their motivation as defenders and workers, the collapse of the institution of the family and the decline in the birth rate, and in general on the future of the country. The main thing is the privileges and apartheid of the white queens among Negro-subhuman men.
            And your classmate, most likely, became a real man, i.e. a servant of his women, a fulfillment of desires. And not a man who has his own opinion and is capable of exploits and discoveries.
            PS I understand that these explanations are up to the woman, simply because of the software limitation of the brain. A depressant, for example, told me that she was a man, and then blurted out about women's rights in Syria !!! Just out of woman's solidarity, although the topic was about fertility in Russia.
            PSS You can not answer, for the answers from TP bingo I know. First there was N8, then slightly reworked NN 1,4,10 and 13. We will not bring to N 25 laughing Better watch the video with Kapranov. good
            1. Barmaleyka
              Barmaleyka 20 March 2020 12: 01 New
              -2
              Quote: Hypatius
              Darling

              be rude to another place and other people
              Quote: Hypatius
              And your classmate, most likely, became a real man

              that is, to look after a disabled mother and a younger sister, being the only man in the family to be a shame for you, would you spend time on things that are more suitable for a "real" man? !!
              all the best "real" "man", it makes no sense to argue with you hi
              ps change your profile picture
              1. Hypatius
                Hypatius 20 March 2020 12: 47 New
                -2
                I know that it’s useless to argue, a software limitation, which I already wrote about good But, your advice .. Motherland is a Symbol. Including Symbol of woman’s self-sacrifice and responsibility for the country. This is not a symbol of feminism or woman's solidarity in the struggle for privileges, nishtyaki and irresponsibility. This is also the difference between Soviet and current education and goal-setting.
    2. Malyuta
      Malyuta 19 March 2020 23: 27 New
      +9
      Quote: Hypatius
      Hypatius (Valery)

      I agree. Now a man is put into the framework when he owes everything to everyone, not having time to be born.
  7. Sergey39
    Sergey39 19 March 2020 21: 02 New
    +1
    The main thing is education in a full-fledged family. To create a full-fledged family, a full-fledged man and woman are needed, which at the moment are not among young people. Vicious circle. The way out of it is long and difficult. But you need to act.
  8. Hypatius
    Hypatius 19 March 2020 21: 04 New
    -1
    "Stalingrad" is a good channel, it is signed and I recommend it to others. And may Stalingrad defeat Putinburkh.
  9. Igoresha
    Igoresha 19 March 2020 21: 13 New
    -1
    Well, at least they didn’t write that you need to go to the army for this
    1. Livonetc
      Livonetc 20 March 2020 07: 43 New
      +1
      There are no rights without Igor's responsibilities.
      And this is something that must be brought to the awareness of children.
      However, not this duty itself makes a man a man.
      A feature of real masculinity is the ability to protect.
      The peculiarity is not even physical, but volitional and spiritual.
  10. Scipio
    Scipio 19 March 2020 21: 13 New
    +2
    How to raise a man? Just an example! And childhood itself to teach responsibility and ability to think about the consequences !!! Without a father, a man cannot be raised; he saw a bunch of examples in the army. Father, the necessary severity and punishment in the upbringing, punished kindly get the punishment ..... If the parents do not raise their children, stupid programs and bloggers will take care of them
  11. Masha
    Masha 19 March 2020 21: 17 New
    +4
    To raise a man you need a man! With a capital letter! And even the second is not given! And we have them, they were and will be! love
    1. The leader of the Redskins
      The leader of the Redskins 19 March 2020 22: 25 New
      +3
      That is, for a single mother, a son cannot become a priori a man? And Moses, Besedin fatherless grew?
      This is the wrong approach. Remember how many heroes of the war were from orphanages, single-parent families!
      1. Masha
        Masha 19 March 2020 23: 15 New
        +4
        And I don’t argue ... I will say this .... every kid should have a hero! Which he would be equal to, wanted and sought to be like him! And maybe surpass! Our whole life is striving to achieve something, but what ... everyone decides for himself .... love
      2. would
        would 20 March 2020 06: 30 New
        +1
        And Moses


        Well, how can you do that ?! Honorary member of the United Russia party since 2003, supports GDP and DAM lol

        And of course, one cannot help but recall Zverev - a complete family, he still served in the Soviet Army in air defense, a member of the CPSU, and so on and so forth. Only, unlike Moses, is not United Russia.
  12. Barmaleyka
    Barmaleyka 19 March 2020 21: 32 New
    +2
    under the title of the article, the photo is indicative, that is, the man is not the one who took responsibility, but the one who has the strength in this and the problem
  13. Silhouette
    Silhouette 19 March 2020 21: 52 New
    +6
    A society is brought up by a person, the environment in which the process of growing up occurs, which is now commonly called socialization. Therefore, it is not necessary that only a father is engaged in raising a man. In pre-revolutionary Russia, fathers often were absent for a long time or at all (on seasonal earnings, in wars, etc.), but men were not transferred and young women did not become feminine. Now the world is talking about female psychology, which prevails in the cinema, on television, in art, in the media. On the basis of unfounded, unproven allegations of rape, which allegedly took place many years ago, a man can be put to the fullest and dropped in the eyes of the public. Before our eyes, the man became a second-class man. Hence his role in the family and parenting declined.
  14. Ravil_Asnafovich
    Ravil_Asnafovich 19 March 2020 22: 17 New
    0
    MOTHER brought up, and the FATHER taught everything, now the grandson is growing, and I have the same principle, wants to learn how good it would be.
  15. Junior Private
    Junior Private 19 March 2020 22: 54 New
    +2
    Quote: Hypatius
    Now all the media and laws are aimed at destroying the family (complete, not the child + mother). The laws and the media discriminate against men, like Negroes in the States. But to the women, they put on the “crown” and push them for divorce by alimony, material capital and propaganda.

    The way it is. Horrific modern divorce statistics. To marry several times and have children from different fathers has become something mundane, and this is difficult to call a traditional family. I have deep doubts that under such conditions it is possible to raise a man.
  16. Junior Private
    Junior Private 19 March 2020 23: 03 New
    +7
    Quote: Silhouette
    Before our eyes, the man became a second-class man. Hence his role in the family and parenting declined.

    The current feminism, the infection is worse than all distortions taken together.
  17. Campanella
    Campanella 19 March 2020 23: 44 New
    0
    Some garbage. The world is engaged in the destruction of the human population, through homosexuals, through the middle race and other crap Globalists do not need peasants. Well, we are trying to integrate into this global tolerastic shit, well, what guys?
  18. Artavazdych
    Artavazdych 20 March 2020 00: 05 New
    +5
    A lot of epithets in the comments, what should be a male model for a boy.
    Yes, only this is already in the background ...
    To begin with, a man should just BE.
    And in our country 40% of children grow up with single mothers.
    And in second place in importance - the child should not be alone. At least two. Well, the more - the better for the children themselves.
  19. lopvlad
    lopvlad 20 March 2020 02: 26 New
    +4
    Quote: Tatiana
    Of course, a man should be the master in the house - not be armless, economic, provide the family financially and protect her physically. To be strong, courageous, to help my wife also come true in life.
    A husband must love his wife, be proud of her, be attentive to his wife and children, give them gifts. It’s interesting for the family to communicate with each other. To love children, to take care of their well-being.
    You can’t sulk at each other for a long time, you need to be able to understand each other and forgive.


    you confuse housekeeping (to be able to do everything around the house) and really be the boss in the house (when the decisive word is in any business). And then you list the signs of combining the "vest and rug" in which you can bury and cry when you need to and when you need to wipe your feet.
    As a rule, men with the qualities listed by you raise other people's children, and for the most part they don’t know about this, considering them their own.

    Quote: Tatiana
    Wives appreciate such husbands and will not be given to any other woman.


    Naturally, someone will refuse such a "vest-rug." Also, no normal man will ever leave a woman who feeds him deliciously and takes care of him, while he will sleep with his mistress and appreciate her skill in bed.
  20. nikvic46
    nikvic46 20 March 2020 06: 45 New
    0
    The general school has a great influence on both boys and girls. They absorb each other's traits. But this is not the main trouble. We forgot where the word "Fatherland" comes from. Mother gives the child a human attitude to people. I mean boys. The father does the rest. If the family breaks up, the mother takes on the role of the father, and does not always do it skillfully. A good upbringing depends on the strength of the family. As soon as the child is removed from family worries, then do not expect good. The biggest mistake when a man should be some kind of screen hero. there is no evil.
  21. Mikhail3
    Mikhail3 20 March 2020 10: 15 New
    0
    And what is the general understanding of "man"? We should start by defining if we want to find the truth, and not just chat. Perhaps this is a strong, responsible, strong-willed person? Yes? Able to deal with circumstances, to insist on your own, to overcome? And what are his prospects?
    Our time is the time of large-scale organizations. Organized society. And these organizations are immeasurably stronger than an individual! At the same time, these organized structures are NEVER guided by honor, conscience, justice and truth. We all know this very well, right?
    So. Who will succeed if we add strength, will, overcoming, but are forced to remove what is being promoted by organized structures in modern conditions? It turns out, guys, depending on the strength of mind, either a thief or a thug. Sorry, but nothing else will happen, no matter how you jump.
    And women who bring up the male world and our future find themselves in a difficult situation. A thief and a thug will abandon them, and most likely will sell them, as is typical of this type of personality. And how to make the child have at least some future? The inevitable becomes. Moral and volitional qualities are weakening so that the young man harmoniously merges into the very structures that have captured the world at the grassroots level. Submissive performers, who have no moral principles, are required to fulfill the will of the leadership. It's all.
    In general, everything, our world in its present form is doomed, guys ...
  22. Sklendarka
    Sklendarka 20 March 2020 22: 33 New
    -1
    Quote: rait
    And Moses


    Well, how can you do that ?! Honorary member of the United Russia party since 2003, supports GDP and DAM lol

    And of course, one cannot help but recall Zverev - a complete family, he still served in the Soviet Army in air defense, a member of the CPSU, and so on and so forth. Only, unlike Moses, is not United Russia.

    But interesting pubic shave they overall shave ???
  23. Alexandr_F
    Alexandr_F 21 March 2020 14: 30 New
    0
    The child found it hard, since he cringed all over when dad came to his dormitory)
    Everything seems to be the case, but the phrases are mostly general, there is a lot of negativity and the man is represented by the victim of a woman.
    Tough man, difficult childhood, authoritarian upbringing.
    However, the fact that a man is not a body, but one who is able to make a choice, breaks out of the general atmosphere of the conversation and sounds very convincing.